I have been a counsellor and psychotherapist for over 30 years. Currently I work in the NHS as a Psychotherapist and I also have a private practice as an Attachment-Based Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist. I did my training for this at the John Bowlby Centre in London. I felt very drawn to this approach because it is very positive and hopeful. It puts a strong emphasis on our creativity, our longing to make good relationships despite bad experiences, and our potential to heal from these experiences and move forwards. Many of the clients I work with have suffered the trauma of abuse and/or neglect in childhood and are struggling with the ongoing negative impact of this on their sense of self and expectations of others.
What is Attachment-Based Psychotherapy?
Attachment-based psychotherapy is based on the understanding that people come into the world with a strong need to make relationships (attach) with others, and that it is vital to feel loved and secure enough in our relationships throughout life in order to feel safe in ourselves and with other people, to develop as individuals, to have a good opinion of ourselves, and to be able to meet our own needs and pursue our goals in life. When people have suffered loss or abuse, or have felt generally unloved, unsupported, and insecure this can contribute to a number of difficulties. These include low self-esteem, feeling unhappy, depressed, lonely, anxious, finding it hard to trust others, problems with making good and lasting relationships, and/or a feeling of being ‘stuck’ in certain ways of thinking and behaving which prevent them from moving on in life.
Why do people seek psychotherapy?
People who come to see me for therapy don’t always know exactly why they are feeling as they do. They have usually come to a point in their lives when they become more aware of their difficulties and more distressed about them. This can happen after a crisis or loss of some kind, such as bereavement or the breakdown of a relationship, or they might feel that there is no meaning or purpose to their lives. They may then feel that they need help to understand themselves and their difficulties and to find a way to resolve things and move forwards.
How can psychotherapy help?
Therapy takes place within the context of a confidential, secure and understanding ‘attachment’ relationship. Through sharing and exploring experiences and feelings in therapy people can gain a better understanding of themselves and what underlies their difficulties. This can then enable them to mourn over their suffering and losses and begin to recover from them.
Overall, Attachment-Based therapy can be very effective in helping people to feel more secure and confident, more able to be themselves and express their feelings more freely, to make better relationships and to bring about the changes which will enable them to get more out of life.
UKCP Registered Attachment-Based Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist (Gained in 2010)
Post-Graduate Certificate in Counselling (Gained in 1981)
I have also had training in a number of other approaches including EMDR and Dynamic Interpersonal Therapy
Ethical Framework (MBACP / UKCP etc.)